Lord of the Manor’s Guide to Wedding Etiquette

Here at our Cotswolds luxury hotel, we have hosted many weddings in our time and understand that whether you are attending an intimate ceremony in a beautiful English garden or a lavish affair in a listed country mansion, your best behaviour is expected.

If you are new to the wedding scene, our expert guide to the perfect wedding etiquette will help you avoid any wedding faux pas…


RSVP as soon as possible and don’t fall into the trap of thinking “I’ve got plenty of time”. Aside from being good manners, it’s vital the bride and groom know guest numbers to allow for final arrangements to be made, such as ensuring there’s enough seating and food available.

Arrive on time

Punctuality is key when it comes to weddings. If you are attending a wedding in an unfamiliar location, make sure you allow yourself plenty of time to get there. You could even test the route out in advance. If know you are going to have a long journey ahead of you, it is often a good idea to stay over the night before.

Check out the dress code

Ensure you look at the invitation for a dress code and stick to it. If you don’t have the correct clothes in your wardrobe, you will need to hire or purchase the necessary items. If you’re unsure of the dress code, ask someone familiar with the wedding like a bridesmaid or a member of the bride’s family, the bride will have enough to be thinking about.

Never add your own plus-one

Every couple goes through the painstaking process of deciding how many and which guests they can have at their wedding. If yours is the only name that appears on the envelope, then you are the only one invited. Modern day etiquette does say that the bride should include your romantic other in the first place, so if it is a major concern you can politely broach the subject with her – far in advance of the big day!


Gift giving is the norm at most weddings. Many couples will either register an online wedding list or have the option to donate to their honeymoon, making it easy for you to contribute. Don’t feel pressured to spend more than you can comfortably afford but do try to shop from the options they have provided as these will have been well thought-out. You should also send a gift, even if you can’t attend the big day. Show your gratitude for being invited to such an important day in their lives.

We hope this handy list will help with any of your etiquette-related worries before the special day. If you have any questions or wish to book a tour of Lords of the Manor, one of the finest luxury wedding venues in the Cotswolds, please contact us by email at frontofhouse@lordsofthemanor.com or call us on 01451 820 243.